We bring our children up a certain way and try to instil our values into them so that they will go out into the world knowing what is right and what is wrong. We hope that they take on board what we believe but what if they don’t? For example what would you do if you found out that they have been stealing – from you, someone you know or don’t know or from an organisation/service?
We all know that stealing is wrong but it does happen. Some children steal even though they know it is wrong and there could be many reasons why they do it. Peer pressure is one reason. Others are that they need money to buy something they want, that they have seen other people steal or want your attention.
The first thing to do is to find out the reason why they stole and what you can do to help them stop. Do they need more attention from you? Do they need to be more assertive with friends? What other ways can they obtain money for something they want without taking it from others? Why do they think it is cool or exciting?
What else can you do to stop your child from stealing?
- You could discipline your child for stealing in the best way they see fit for your child to get the message that stealing is wrong
- You could take your child to the place of theft and get them to take the thing/money back and apologise
- You could get your child to understand the implications of stealing by getting them to imagine how the other person who was stolen from could be feeling.
- If they have stolen from you or another person you could make them pay back the money – perhaps with a consequence/apology alongside.
Have you ever been in this situation? If so what did you do? What would you do if you caught your child stealing?
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