We like to think we are paying attention to our children and are in tune with them all or most of the time but sometimes we can forget that when they are grouchy or are behaving in a certain way that there is a feeling behind their behaviour. It may be that our children are hungry, tired, ill or upset about something.
We can forget to see the good in children. Instead when their behaviour is not as we would like it to be or they have done something we don’t agree with we see the ‘negative’ and that negative thought can stay with us for a long time. We forget that their may have been good intentions behind their actions and assume the worst.
We can forget that our children have a different perspective on their life and that the way we would solve their problem is not the same as how they would solve it.
We can forget that children are noisy, take risks, are silly, challenge us, don’t listen, play up etc. We were children once and we were just the same. This is how we learnt about the world, ourselves and rules of life.
We can forget that they are children and can often expect too much of them when it comes to being able to do things. We can forget that just because their peers are riding a bike or walking to school on their own it does not mean our child is ready to do the same.
What would you say you consciously have to remember about children?