Where is your child learning respect? Is it at school or is it at home – or both? I would hope that it is learnt in both environments although I believe it should start at home and essentially from us. If we want our children to be respectful, we have to be. But what does that ‘respect’ look like?
Respect is about calling each other by our proper names or nick names if they don’t offend – Mum, Dad, John, Jill, Mumps, Poppa. It is about talking to each other instead of shouting, asking others if you can use/have something of theirs in a polite way, it is about talking nicely to each other in the way that you would like to be talked to, listening to each other and about thinking about other people’s needs. Many people see respect the same way and will categorise manners in that – saying please and thank you, opening doors for others who are coming through after them and looking after someone’s possessions as they would their own.
We need to model that behaviour and teach our children ‘to do as we do’. We have to live our values and if one of those values is respect, then we have got to behave respectfully when they are watching us and when they are not.
How do you model ‘respect’ in your household?