We all make them don’t we? We don’t like making them as they can have some serious implications but they are unavoidable and just happen. As adults we are used to making them and have years of practice accepting they do. But what do we do when our children make them and they are ones of the biggish type?
Well some parents will shout at their child and scare them in the hope that they will never make that mistake again. The child may then start to hide their mistakes or blame others for theirs. Other children who are reprimanded for making a mistake may set lower goals for themselves out of fear of failure (there will be no room for mistakes) and may keep their aspirations low key. We don’t want this either for our children.
So what can we do?
We can show them that it is ok to make mistakes by not paying much attention to them. Say, ‘It doesn’t matter’, ‘Don’t worry about it’ or ‘You made that mistake and I know you will not do it again because…..’ and we can focus on their achievements. Another way to help our children accept their mistakes is by admitting our own and that doing so doesn’t make you a bad person.
How do you respond when your children make mistakes?