Is there a point when that child should just give up and accept the way their life is or should they keep on seeking for the solution? If a child cannot solve the problem using their resources, do they understand the real problem or are they not seeing themselves as part of the problem?
Many children do not seem to see themselves as part of the problem and until they do they are unable to move forward. This can take some time and it also takes some guts to say, ‘I did this which is why I am in this situation and I now need to do something to change the situation.’
We know, as adults, that accepting responsibility is the first step and we need to see the whole picture. We also know that if we do not change our actions or our thoughts that we stay in the situation and don’t have the opportunity to move forward. We need to be teaching our children this and it is easily done.
Ask them – ‘what will happen if you do nothing? And what may happen if you did something? Perhaps something good may happen i.e. the problem will go away?’ Can they imagine what it would be like if they did x? It can be quite exciting for them to think of the possible outcome.
If your child is not seeing themselves as part of the problem find a way to get them to see that they are and that in order for change, they are the ones who have to be the implement it.
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