The Effect On Children When Mum Goes Back To Work
My children have always known me to go out to work – even though I work mainly from home. For them I am mum and that’s what I do when they are not with me during the day and in the evenings when they are asleep. I talk to them about my work and I ask them questions like, ‘What do you think about mummy working?’ on a regular basis.
For some parents it is more difficult as they have gone back to work when their children are older. They may worry about the effect it will have on their children but rest assured there are some positives. Children are resilient and children of working mums can be more independent, responsible and great problem solvers.
I did a webinar a few weeks ago on exactly this subject. Have a listen. It addresses the effect on children and the ways to recognise if they are unhappy. Also discussed is delegation and strategies for mums so they are able to work and have happy children. http://bit.ly/cMltey
What do you think are the biggest child challenges of going back to work? I would love to know.
2 Comments for this entry
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Children take so many of their thought and behaviour cues from us and other significant adults around them which means if we are confident, positive and upbeat about changes it’s likely they will be too. I’m yet to read Oliver James’ “How Not To F*** Up Your Kids” but believe it is meant to be a good read (according to a developmental psychologist friend of mine) and he’s not totally against kids in childcare/working parents. For many not working just isn’t a choice and even when it is a choice on balance two parents working might be the best alternative.
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Chris Spradlin
July 19th, 2010 on 1:45 pmjust wanted you to know that I love your stuff!
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