Attachment, as those who work with children know, is really important to how a child reacts and responds to life. It creates who they are and impacts how they see themselves and the outside world. While not being an attachment specialist, I see wonderful strong bonds between children and their parents when I am working and I can see just how happy the children are. They trust their parents, their parents trust them and they are communicating well.
Not every parent is able to create this. Attachment is something that many parents need to work on. How many of us are natural parents and always know the right thing to say or do? We just can’t and aren’t. Attachment with a child can change and become more of a challenge as your child grows up into a pre-teen, teen, young adult.
It is such a huge area but I want to share with you this article I found this morning. It talks about how attachment is one factor that can affect your child’s happiness and anxiety. The article focuses on trust and communication. It states that the better a parent communicates with their child and trusts them then the lower chance their child would have emotional issues. Read: Teen Anxiety and Depression More Likely In Kids Who Don’t Trust Or Communicate With Parents
Communication is Key to Attachment
With a nearly 15 year old in our house we see the need of communication and talking constantly. We check in with him daily and getting him to talk about worries. We want him to trust us and know that we are there no matter what. The teenage years are crucial for this to happen so that mental health remains healthy and anxiety levels are kept low. It is a stressful time – exams, puberty, possible family deaths, feelings of not coping etc. We need to keep attached to our children in a way that they are receptive to and show that we trust them.
Have a read of the article. I find it interesting that it mentions a loss of trust in mums by the child and that pre-teens are feeling more alienated by parents than when they are at secondary school. Interesting. I’d love to know what you think about it. Do leave a comment here or via one of my social media channels.