Ever met a really polite person and enjoyed their company and then one day they are no longer that polite person and they are rude? I am sure if you thought about it, it has probably happened to you. Well, our children seem to be going through this too and I am sure puberty is responsible.
How Puberty Effects Friendships
Puberty is having an impact on the friendships our children have and is the reason why their friendships are changing. I don’t think it is a matter of them wanting to get to know new people – children they have not come into contact with before. I think it is more of a case of puberty impacting on their existing friends moods, and our children deciding that those friends don’t fit with them anymore or at the moment.
Puberty, as we know, can make children rude, oppositional and self-centered and some children won’t put up with that. Frankly I don’t blame them. Why would I want to hang out with rude people who aren’t showing respect to me?
What’s the best piece of advice we can give to our children? That they keep the door open for those children who were ‘friends’ but are now ‘too self-centered and rude’. Those friendships may re-ignite in a few year’s time. We also need to remind them that they may too go through this phase – although we hope they don’t.
Finally it is okay to make new friends or start hanging out with friends that were on the periphery. They should be surrounding themselves with people that make themselves feel good.