It is amazing how honest some children are. I have had three children that I have coached recently who have said that they need to respect their parents more. I did not ask them directly if they respected their parents. I asked them if there was anything they would change about themselves and this was their answer. I was amazed!
We talked about what other ways they felt they could show more respect and this was their list…
Ways That Children Can Show Respect
- Listen more
- Do what their parents say/ask the first time
- Be more polite to them
- Always say please and thank you to their parents.
This is a fairly short list but something they felt they were not doing enough of and thought they could do. It was good to see that they were aware of their behaviour, even if they don’t always act on it!
Recognising how children could show respect is a good start. Try and talk to your children about respect. Ask them what it means, how we show it and what it means to disrespect someone. How would they feel if somebody didn’t respect them? Family life is much more enjoyable when we all respect each other. If children never consider their parents it will lead to disagreements, stress and bad feeling.
Respect comes in many different forms including those listed above but how do we get our children to respect us more? And don’t forget that respect is a two way street. Parents should resepect their children and other people too – model the type of behaviour would want to see in your children.