I think all parents can occasionally be guilty of putting negative ideas into our children’s heads. We have our own values and beliefs and not all of them are good or positive! For example, I can’t sleep in the light so when we arrive at a hotel with see-through curtains, I’ll often say, “I am never going to be able to sleep in here” or “my son won’t be able to get to sleep in this room.”
Why do I say it? I don’t really know but I probably shouldn’t say it as it is putting the idea into my sons head that he also needs to sleep in complete darkness. I am guilty of this and I hope that I don’t do it often. Do you say similar things to your children?
Negative Thoughts are Contagious!
Children listen and take in everything their parents say, so we need to be careful of these types of thoughts. Positive thoughts – yes. Negative thoughts – no. We can think negative thoughts but should not say them out loud. Children will get it into their head that they don’t like something because we don’t like that thing. Or they may not like someone because we have shared our negative thoughts about that person. If parents are scared of heights or scared of trying something new, our children may think they can’t do it because their parent has said they can’t. We don’t want our fears and limitations being passed to our children.
Parents should try to be more mindful when projecting negative thoughts. Let’s try and be positive in our actions and say positive things. Let’s share our positive beliefs so our children will take on that positive vibe.