Brothers and sisters can be quite annoying. Sometimes for the whole of your life and sometimes until that critical point where one or several of you leave home and suddenly you all start to get on much better. Despite not getting on whilst all living under the same family roof it is important that siblings find a way of understanding each other and treat each other with a certain type of respect. You will always have different personality types under one roof however, it always almost falls to the oldest sibling to take charge and be a good role model for the others. Being a role model to siblings is important.
Traits Of Being A Role Model
The oldest child or the oldest children are expected to behave in a way that shows their younger siblings the right way to behave and interact. They are a role model and it’s a big job. Their younger siblings are always watching what the older ones are doing, seeing the things they are allowed to do and what they get away with. They need to be a good role model so that the other brothers and sisters will look up to them and respect the decisions they see them making.
They also need to have the traits that make up a good person – trust, respect for others, being polite, working hard, taking responsibility, sharing, being helpful, being good at intervention and negotiation, and being able to see things from another point of view. The latter is important when they are trying to sort out sibling arguments in which they most probably will get involved in.
From a parent’s point of view, we want all our children to have these traits and having a good example set from the top is a good start. The oldest child needs to be a good role model for their siblings but parents need to be good role models for them so they know how they should behave.
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