Life is fluid. We can think we are going one way but then there is a situation, a hiccup or an event that means life has to change. We have to go with it and be receptive to the change. It may be something distressing or stressful and we may not have a choice. Or it could be something wonderful and exciting. Either way, we have to deal with the changes to our life.
I have been very silent on social media the past four months and that is because I have experienced two big life changes. The first is that, after months of building work, we moved into our new home in July (with the builders for a while). It has been challenging and unsettling as well as time consuming but we have all got through it and the children have been great with the upheaval. It is now amazing because we have more space and I have a downstairs toilet! So, the upheaval has been stressful but worth the outcome.
The second change is that I have been helping someone close to me and that has meant juggling things around so I can spend time away from home. This has meant juggling with time and commitments but has been worth it to be able to help out a loved one.
Dealing with Change
Change is not always planned. It can often be totally unexpected so we need to make sure our children are receptive to it. The impact of change for parents will sometimes have a knock on effect to our children so they will need to learn how to adjust.
Talk to your children about being adaptive and dealing with situations outside of their control. Older children may have to learn to be more indepedent and take care of themselves. Younger children will have to accept that they aren’t the only ones that need their parents – sometimes other family members need help and attention too. When affected by change it will shape adults and children. Hopefully, it will bring out survival instincts, make children more resilient, bring out their empathy and coping strategies. Change can make us stronger if we know how to deal with it.