Creating A Strong Bond With Your Child
For some children they want that strong bond with their parents – they want to feel that closeness and feel accepted. But how can we give it to them? Here are five ways:
1. Praise them so that they know that what they are doing is right.
2. Listen to them as it shows them that their thoughts are important to you.
3. Respect their feelings.
4. Tell them when you are having a bad day so they know your mood is not their fault.
5. Tell and show them that you love them as it makes them feel really special and valued.
Anything else to add?
6 Comments for this entry
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When they have a bad behavior is important to let them know that we dissaprove the behavior not them. We will still love them unconditionally disregarding their behavior.
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Naomi Richards
April 4th, 2011 on 8:32 pmYes I agree. I think it is important to do that as mucxh as tell your chidlren when you are having a bad day so they know where they stand. Children like to know what is going on.
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I think bonds are created through sharin…dont just be their chef and chauffeur play with talk too walk with your child be intheir world and let them into yours. Bonds are created form sharing.
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Naomi
April 8th, 2011 on 3:24 pmYes all true. Sharing life and experiences definately creates bonds. Thank you for your comment Becky.
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No.4 is SO true. And I think it’s good for them to learn that parents have bad moods too – makes us human.
Have you come across the 5 Love Languages books? There is one for children, which I haven’t read, but highly recommend from the original.
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Naomi
April 9th, 2011 on 4:37 pmI always tell my children when I am having a bad and ask them to help me get out of it – in a jokey way of course. Thank you for the comment Grace.
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