Back-to-school season can feel like a fresh start, but not every child feels confident and carefree going into a new school year. While many kids genuinely look forward to seeing friends again, having a new teacher, learning new topics and returning to a familiar routine, other children have back-to-school worries as the new term approaches.
Sometimes parents don’t hear the worries because their child isn’t talking about them. However, they may be displaying it instead. Parents might notice their usually easy-going child becoming more irritable, struggling to fall asleep, complaining of tummy ache or seeming more withdrawn than usual. Their child might get frustrated more quickly or bottle things up instead of talking about them. These changes can be subtle at first, but they’re often your child’s way of showing they are not happy.
How Parents Can Help Children to Prepare for a New Term
The first step is to notice any of these behaviours. Once you spot them, open up a gentle conversation with your child. Nothing intense, just a calm, safe space where your child knows it’s okay to share how they feel. Reassure them that feeling nervous about going back to school is completely normal. Even adults get that ‘first day’ feeling sometimes.
Start to get into a routine before school starts. Earlier bedtimes, less TV time in the evenings and a bit of quiet downtime can all help lower stress levels. Small things like organising their bag together or chatting about what they’re looking forward to can make the return feel more familiar and manageable.
When worries do come up, try to explore them together. Gently challenge any negative thoughts they have and help your child see a more balanced perspective. For example, if they’re worried about making mistakes, remind them that learning is all about trying, not getting everything right.
Parents should try not to absorb their anxiety themselves. Children are incredibly perceptive, and they often take emotional cues from the adults around them. Staying calm, positive, and reassuring can help them feel more secure.
Most children do settle back into school after a few days. That initial worry tends to fade once they reconnect with friends and routines. Until then, a little patience, understanding and support from you can really help.
More Resources for Settling into School
ebook: Helping Your Child Through Secondary Transition. Instant download for just £2.50.
My book, The Parent’s Toolkit also has advice that can help with a smooth school transition.
