Being disagreeable has its benefits in some situations. It is great if a child can stand up for what they want and believe in (rather than keep quiet), and is able to challenge others in a confident way. It will make others see them as confident, knowing their own mind and not scared to speak up for themselves or for others. It has its place however it won’t always bring your child friends and it sometimes won’t help in family relationships either. In some circumstances it would be much easier for your child to get on with doing something, or agree with what is going on, rather that working against the system. It certainly won’t provoke an adverse reaction in the people around them. But there is also something to be said for a child that is too agreeable so should we be teaching our children to be more agreeable? If your child is too agreeable, they may be complacent and get walked all over by others. They will also not have had any practice in making their own decisions and standing up for what they believe in. Both of which are incredibly important in life. So how do we help our child find balance and be less disagreeable about everything and more agreeable?
How Can Children Be More Agreeable
- Encourage them to think and make choices for themselves
- Role model agreeing with your spouse and seeing things from their perspective and they will see yuo doing this
- Show them that we trust and respect them and their decisions
- Get them to think more of others and their needs
- Work together more as a family and get them to see the benefits of teamwork
Try out these tips with your child to help them see that there are benefits of working with others and not always being disagreeable!
For more information and help with parenting read my book The Parent’s Toolkit or Being Me (And Loving it)
