Best friends

Not all of your children’s friends will be perfect although your child may want them to be. Everyone has their flaws. Some children will be incredibly tolerant of friends foibles, (although I don’t know too many of them) – others will get annoyed by their friends habits and the way they behave.

We need to teach children tolerance – one way we can do that is by getting them to think about the annoyances and how they can handle them better.

Teaching children to be tolerant

Get your child to make a list (I love lists) about each friend they don’t get on with/find tricky to be around and get them to think about what can they do about each person.

Perhaps they can think to themselves, ‘When Ginny behaves like that I am going to think x’ or ‘When Jacob says x to me then I am going to do x’. By having this type of plan they will feel more in control of the friendship and not get so upset about the way they are being treated.

This could save friendships. It can help children get on with more personality types and not walk away from a friend who they have heaps in common with but who can be a bit mean/bossy/annoying sometimes.

Everyone has moods and is not consistently happy and fun to be around. Unfortunately that is life for you and a life skill children need to learn.