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Being laid-back is a great attribute to have. To take everything in your stride, not worry about anything, and just deal with whatever life throws at you when it happens. Many young people are laid-back and that can be a great thing but can also have drawbacks. What do parents think? Can some children be too laid back?

Drawbacks Of Being Too Laid-Back

I think the biggest drawback is that other people think you don’t care enough. When you are laid-back and easy-going other people might not be able to see your passion, drive, and enthusiasm. It can potentially be seen as being lazy if it appears like a child is procrastinating and putting off doing things they need to do.

Being too laid-back can also be a problem if a child doesn’t offer their own views on what they want or need. Going with the flow may mean just following what their friends do. Whilst this is OK sometimes, friendships can become unequal if others make all the decisions.

If your child is a little too laid-back, could you coach them to be more proactive in life? Perhaps encourage them to make more decisions, share their feelings, wants and needs with others?

As a parent, could you help them to be more decisive rather than sit on the fence? This would allow others to get to know more about them, and their opinions, thoughts and feelings about different situations.

Other people may feel that your child is more engaged and cares about what’s going on if they become more proactive and decisive. When sitting around the dinner table encourage your child to voice those opinions and get used to making decisions. After all, they will have to make decisions and choices outside the home and when they’re adults.

So, whilst being laid-back is great, it can sometimes be detrimental if the child isn’t following their wants, needs and passions. Parents can help ensure that they are living life to their full potential. 

For more specialised help with your laid-back child or for help with other attributes you feel your child should address, please contact me on 07961312749.

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