We can all shout. Parents shout because our children are not listening or not doing something we asked or expected them to do. Maybe they are misbehaving. Children can shout at parents because they think they aren’t listening, are being unreasonable or uncooperative. They can shout at their siblings for any reason under the sun (it seems).
There are lots of reasons why parents shout and why our children shout at each other and at us. Shouting leads to anger and generally, some consequences. It is never a nice family atmosphere where there is shouting, so how can we all stop?
Parents – How To Stop Shouting
If you want a less shouty household, you need to find out why the shouting is happening so that you can address each problem associated with it. Here’s how:
- Make a list of all those things that you don’t feel that you are getting from your children.
- Make another list where your children do the same about the parents.
- Get your children to make a list between themselves of why they shout at each other.
- Go through each issue on the list and discuss a solution.
This helps to get issues out in the open and start to recognise patterns of behaviour that cause the shouting or make it worse. This self-awareness of the problems will help your family to tackle them. As a family, explore what solutions would work best for certain situations:
- Maybe it is going into the room where the person you want to speak with is sitting, and talk to them rather than shouting from another room.
- Maybe it is about using different language or motivation to get the members of your family to do something.
- It might mean re-writing the rules of the house and having them up in the kitchen so that everyone follows them.
- Make it clear what the alternatives to shouting are and remember, the shouting could be the result of not talking enough about a bad day at school or something as simple as a hungry tummy.
There are many reasons to shout but everyone in the family should learn how to curb the need to do so and stop shouting for a happier home life.
If you need some help with dealing with shouting in your house or would like your child to be more co-operative with you please call me and we can chat about how I can help. One coaching session may be all it takes to resolve this issue.
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When everyone is working together there tends to be less shouting and both parents and children gain more understanding about other family members through increased communication and helping each other.
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