Being laid-back is a great attribute to have. To take everything in your stride, not worry about anything, and just deal with whatever life throws at you when it happens. Many young people are laid-back and that can be a great thing, but can it have drawbacks?
Possible Drawbacks of Being Laid-Back
I think the biggest drawback is that other people think you don’t care enough. When you are laid-back other people might not be able to see your passion, drive, and enthusiasm. The approach could potentially be seen as being lazy if it appears like a child is putting off doing things they need to do.
Being too laid-back can also be a problem if a child doesn’t offer their own views on what they want or need. Going with the flow may mean just following what their friends do. Whilst this is OK sometimes, friendships can become unequal if others make all the decisions.
Taking More Control
If your child is a little too laid-back, could you coach them to be more proactive in life? Encourage them into making more decisions, sharing their feelings, their wants and needs with others.
Could you help them to be more decisive rather than sit on the fence? Others will then get to know more about them, their opinions, thoughts and feelings about different situations.
Other people will feel that they are more engaged and care about what’s going on. When sitting around the dinner table, or when together in family time, encourage them to voice those opinions and get used to making decisions. After all, they will have to make decisions and choices outside of the home and when they’re adults.
So, whilst being laid-back is great, parents can help to ensure that it isn’t to the detriment of the child by not following their own wants, needs and passions.