Girl with finger up to lip- ShhhhChildren often feel that they have something worthwhile to say and that they are able to offer great advice. This may happen as they’ve been asked for their opinion by a friend or others that have sought their help. In which case offering an opinion or assistance is wanted and isn’t interfering.

However, some children give their opinion or get involved in other peoples business when no one asked them to. If so, it may be seen as interfering and will not be gratefully received. Others may wonder why they are poking their nose in? If it isn’t their friendship group, why do they feel that they have to be involved? No one asked them to interfere but they think they should as they consider their input helpful or supportive.  Maybe they don’t like conflict and think they are helping by solving the argument.

Don’t Interfere! Let Others Learn Problem-Solving Skills

So, is interfering in other’s business or arguments the right thing to do? It depends!

Children should only be concerned about what is going on in their friendship group and not be too distracted about what else is going on in the playground. If they see something that they don’t like they could report it, but they really should allow that group of friends to sort it out amongst themselves. They may use their own problem-solving or conflict-resolution skills. But if they feel they need help, they can choose where to seek it from.

It is great to be a superhero in the playground but teach your child that they are not responsible for keeping the peace and ironing out all the arguments and squabbles. Critical problem-solving skills are learned when they need to be and if your child tries to solve others problems, they are robbing others of the chance to learn how to assert themselves and deal with their own problems. Whilst the intention is good, interfering should be a last resort and only used when necessary.

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