Lockdown has meant that many of us have now been at home longer than we had anticipated at the start of the pandemic. It has certainly been challenging! Families aren’t used to being cooped up together. With different personalities, needs and wants for each family members to be met, a lot of good listening, privacy and understanding has been needed.
On the plus side, parents have seen personal growth in our children and a shift in independence. Our children have been ‘hopefully’ doing more for themselves and that has included taking responsibility for staying connected to friends.
More of our children are reliant on social media since school has been closed. It can be difficult to step back and not interfere when they are using it as we worry about too much screen time. However, it is important that we leave them to it and give them some privacy. Part of growing up and becoming more independent is being allowed to have private conversations with friends without mum or dad listening at the door, or walking into their room when they know they are on facetime.
Allow your children to have this space and respect their privacy. Parents of a certain age who did not have mobile phones found it was difficult to have private conservations on the house phone. When they think back to being a teenager themselves they were probably hiding in a cupboard so no one would hear. Your child’s cupboard is their bedroom, so leave them to their conversations.