blackboard with the word No written on it

“Yes/ No/ Whatever”. Sound familiar?! Not quite respectful language is it?  We can sometimes get one-word answers from our children or short statements that are snappy. These can sound quite rude and don’t really give much information to us when we are looking for a longer response that is polite and courteous. They do this not only to their family but to everyone (including their friends) and it’s not because they are upset with them – it is just their manner. They are blunt and to the point and it can feel quite cutting. These children don’t really think about how it makes the recipient feel when they are short and blunt to them. At best, it appears thoughtless. At worst, it can appear rude and disrespectful.  

HOW CAN PARENTS TEACH RESPECTFUL LANGUAGE?

If your child is blunt, tell them how it makes others feel. They may feel disliked, that your child doesn’t have time for them, or doesn’t really want to talk to them.

Model what they do to others and get them to feel what it is like to be on the end of their bluntness. Is that how they want others to feel when they’re talking to them? If so, it will eventually have consequences.

Discuss ways they can tone it down. Can they use a friendlier tone of voice, or be a little kinder when listening to others?

Being blunt can push people away as it’s seen as being arrogant. Does your child want that? If not, then it is time for them to change. Respectful language brings with it respect from others and they get listened to. There are so many benefits to being polite and responding in a positive way.