'Appreciate what you have' written in white chalk on a blackboard

Children are naturally curious and eager to explore the world around them. While this curiosity is a fantastic trait, it can sometimes lead them to compare their lives with others. This tendency to focus on what others have, particularly in the context of friendships and possessions can stop them from enjoying what is going on and appreciating what they have in their own lives.

They should not be looking at what others have, as other children at school may be in a different financial situation to them or their friends may have two sets of parents and therefore get spoilt by both sets. Alternatively, their friend’s parents may have different values to their parents and may want them to have lots of possessions because that’s what they had as a child, or they believe certain possessions will make their child popular. Kids need to be grateful for the possessions and comforts they have at home, and teaching children to acknowledge and appreciate the privileges they have will help.

Teaching Children To Appreciate Friends

It’s great to be curious but we need to instill in children the importance of appreciating what they have. Whether it’s their friends or their belongings, we can help them recognise the value of their own lives and their experiences. In terms of friendships, children may already have wonderful friends, but they can become preoccupied with what other kids are doing or who they are friends with. Encourage them to cherish the friendship bonds they have formed and concentrate on making them stronger. They don’t need to be in every friendship group or to know everything that is happening in the playground. They need to be in their moment, with their friends.

The Parents ToolkitBy appreciating what they already have, children will be much happier, they can develop healthier relationships and experience greater contentment. It’s a vital lesson that will serve them well throughout their lives.

If you would be interested in working with me please get in contact. I work with children as a life coach on many, many issues. Alternatively read my parenting book, ‘The Parent’s Toolkit’.