As parents, we want our teenagers to notice and appreciate the people around them. That includes the people who support them in life (whether daily, weekly, or ad hoc), teach them things, show them kindness, or give them their time.
These people could be family members, teachers, friends, sports coaches, or even people they interact with only occasionally. We want our kids to recognise and value people, show respect and see the importance and value of what they do. People love being appreciated, and when someone says “thank you”, they are more likely to help that person again.
How to Help Your Teen Notice the People Around Them
If your child doesn’t have this skill yet, it is important to build it. Start by having simple, everyday conversations with your teen. Ask them:
- Who did you interact with today?
- Did anyone help you or make your day easier?
- How did that make you feel?
Help them notice that every day, someone is doing something kind for them. Often without expecting anything in return. This could be a friend checking in on them or a teacher offering extra help.
Simple Ways Teenagers Can Show Appreciation
Once they start noticing, the next step is helping them act on it. Appreciation doesn’t have to be big or complicated. It could be:
- Saying a genuine “thank you”
- Sending a quick message
- Helping that person in return
- Making or giving something thoughtful
The key is helping teens understand that effort matters. The way they show appreciation can depend on the situation and their relationship with the person.
If appreciation doesn’t come naturally yet, try helping your teen see things from another perspective. Ask them to imagine, “How would you feel if you did something kind for a friend and they didn’t even notice?” Most teens will quickly understand that it would feel disappointing or even hurtful.
That simple reflection can make a big difference in how they treat others and can encourage them to start doing something different.
Why Appreciation Is a Powerful Life Skill
Appreciating others and not taking them for granted is a powerful trait. It shows emotional maturity and an awareness of what others do for them. People like people who show appreciation and are more likely to support them in return and be a cheerleader. It also helps teens feel valued themselves, especially when they’re trusted and asked to help others.
Need Some Support?
If you’d like a little help with your teenager with this life skill, or any others that will help them be more successful in life, please contact me for an informal chat. As a life coach for teenagers and children, I encourage them to develop the essential life skills they need.
