All children have challenges to face in life. Some are large challenges and some are small, but whichever they are, us parents should address them with our children. Some challenges can take a while to resolve whilst others cannot, but they can be managed to help children cope with them.
For example, maybe a child doesn’t want to be left alone in the house with an older brother or sister. This challenge can easily be managed and resolved. Or maybe they don’t want to try something new and it’s limiting their life experience. Challenges like this don’t really need to be managed but rather resolved to help the child face new social situations.
Take Your Time Processing Challenges
If we roll back the years and us parents think about ourselves as children, I’m sure we can remember our own challenges. I know I had them and I can see one or two of those presenting themselves in my children. I know how the challenges got resolved too and that was mostly due to time.
Time as they say heals but I also think it is something we need to give our children. Let them know it’s OK to take time to adjust. Time to get their head around something. Time to want to change their actions or their thoughts. I don’t think we can rush our children into changing something quickly when they are not ready. We need to go at their pace.
We need to go at their pace.
I write that twice because I think we are in the habit of thinking, ‘Well, just get on with it’ or ‘Just get over it’. We have a tendancy to want quick results in our modern society but neither work in my opinion. Let’s take a step back and be guided by our children. Let’s allow them to take smaller steps so they feel comfortable and in control to the place that we want them to be.
We won’t always be able to deal with our chilldren’s problems as they grow, so it’s a great life lesson for them. Give them space to do what feels right to them and empower them to make their own decisions about a situation.