As parents, we try to choose our words carefully when we are talking to our children. We don’t want to say things that are going to upset them. Instead, we think about what we are going to say before we say it, so that our words are received in the right way.
It is very easy to say the first thing that comes into our heads, but the wrong thing can destroy a child’s self-esteem. When a child struggles with low self-esteem, those thoughtful moments matter most. The right words can build them up, while the wrong ones can knock their confidence. Parents have a powerful role to play in how children see themselves, and what we think of them really matters.
We are supposed to be their cheerleaders. So when your child is experiencing low self-esteem, we have a role to play in boosting it. It doesn’t require big, complicated actions, but instead repeating simple, consistent phrases can make a real difference.
Phrases to Raise Confidence and Positivity
Using positive, confidence-boosting phrases can help children build the positivity they need to push through challenges, especially when something feels new or difficult. They’ll feel more capable and ready to give things a try. They are definitely worth a shot!
‘You can do it.‘
Hearing this reassures your child that you believe in their ability. When children know their parents have confidence in them, they begin to believe in themselves. You can strengthen this further by highlighting the progress they are making. It helps them keep going, even when they feel they are struggling to make small strides.
‘What do you think?’
Asking for your child’s opinion shows that their thoughts matter to you. It encourages them to reflect, express themselves and feel respected by you. As well as learning how to formulate and express their own opinion.
‘You did a great job.’
Recognising effort is just as important as recognising the results. When children feel their hard work is noticed, they are more likely to keep trying.
‘Tell me about it.’
After a tough day, this simple phrase opens the door for connection. It shows your child that you want to hear about what has challenged them and how they feel.
‘You decide.‘
Giving children choices helps them develop decision-making skills. It also shows that you trust them to make decisions, which can be incredibly empowering.
These small, intentional words can ease worries, build confidence, and encourage resilience. Do you use phrases like these with your child? Give children autonomy, rather than just telling them what to do and think, and watch their self-esteem blossom.
Resources to Create Confident Children
For extra support, explore tools like the ‘WOW’ board to continue building your child’s confidence at home. It encourages children to recognise and focus on the positives in their lives.
